That apple tree. Oh my goodness. Something told me it wouldn't turn out well.
A second-grade teacher writes: "I teach in a very competitive school where parents have developed a 'mob mentality' for bullying administrators and teachers. They have gone beyond helicopter parenting to Apache Blackhawk parenting."
This happened years ago. Mama was alive then, so it's been seven or eight years. I hadn't thought about in almost that many years but when it came to mind the other day, I took to studying on it and how the circumstances and opportunities of life's journey can be so fascinating.
Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we're at home. We use a "potty bell" and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we're away from home, however, he seems clueless. He pees in his car seat about five minutes into a trip and simply will not use a potty anywhere but at our home or at my mother's (she watches him one day a week at her place). Would pull-ups be a bad thing to use when we leave the house?
Yes, I know that I am, occasionally, prone to embellishment. But trust me when I say this is the law and the gospel: I have a long-time friend who only calls me when someone dies. Most times, I know the person but sometimes I don't have a clue the person ever existed.
Q: I homeschooled my oldest, an 8-year-old boy, until this year. He started third grade in public school in August. As a homeschooling mom, I was not a micromanager and don't want to become one now, but the school virtually insists that parents help with homework. I want him to be independent. What are your thoughts on this?
A friend of mine, long embroiled in upsets, distractions, problems and tribulations, called one day to announce happily that she was learning to "let things roll right off my back."
It's a fact that a good night's sleep is essential to optimal performance, no matter the task. It is also a fact that America's teens, generally speaking, don't get enough sleep. Ergo, American teens, as a group, underperform in school.
As the old parenting point of view fell out of fashion beginning in the late 1960s, the vernacular that accompanied it all but completely disappeared. Today's parents don't say to their children the sorts of things parents said to children in the 1950s and before, things like, "You're acting too big for your britches again, young man."
It's a funny thing. That's what Mama used to say when something baffled her. Like Mama, I prefer that things make common sense. Otherwise, I'll ponder, figure, study, and try to decipher that funny thing until it's somewhat sensible.
One Sunday while sitting around the dinner table, Louise and I began to tell Daddy stories, the ones that stretched back to the early days of his preaching life. Since I was born 12 years after he "made a preacher," as our folks said back then, I could only contribute what he had told me about those days, not what I had seen.
Q: Our 5-year-old grandson sees his 5-year-old female first cousin from time to time. After they play for a while, he tells her he wants to "touch" her. This has happened twice in recent months. Her parents are very upset, but our grandson's parents read lots of parenting books and seem to think it's no big deal. Your thoughts on this matter?
To this conclusion I have come: the most deadly years of our lives are the ages 16 to 21. Those years give us a headiness that comes from new freedom - a driver's license - and the passing of the torch from strict childhood rules to more trust, different restraints and relaxed curfews.
On one of my Web sites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet training. A 3-year-old is afraid of the potty. A 26-month-old will only use the potty independently if he's not wearing clothes. A 23-month-old seems oblivious to mom's expectations. And so on.
The YMCA of Coastal Georgia will become a provider of the nationally recognized LIVESTRONG at the YMCA program, thanks to an implementation grant from YMCA of the USA, the Y's national resource office, in partnership with the LIVESTRONG Foundation.
A few years back, someone I knew ever so slightly died. Though I didn't know him well, I knew him to be mean, egotistical, and quite a bully.
Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Neal (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to learn from her teacher that she is having difficulty with scissors and somewhat behind the other kids in letter and number recognition. The parents apparently blew the teacher's mind when they replied that they were more concerned with their daughter's heart and character than her academic achievement. Was she compassionate? Was she respectful of her teachers and peers?
Four athletes from Faith Equestrian Therapeutic Center won a total of 10 medals at the state Special Olympics horse show in Gainesville.
For the last several Octobers among the evergreen pines and red, brown and yellow leaves of oak trees in Guyton, there have also been bright spots of pink. For three years now, "Paint the Park Pink" has been the theme for Mossy Oak Music Park's October bluegrass festival.
From the I'm Sorry to Have to Tell You Department: Parents who say they want to raise kids who "think for themselves" are not being exactly truthful. It's a nice and very democratic thing to say, for sure, but let's face it folks, you want your kids to think like you do. For example: if you're a liberal, you want your kids to be liberals when they grow up. Right? Right!
Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Steven Snooks of Springfield announce the engagement of their daughter, Emily Patrice Snooks, to Ryan James Burnside, son of Mr. Conrad Burnside of Suwanee and Ms. Catherine Saul Burnside of Duluth.
My husband was out of town, working on location, when he called one night and discovered that I was still working, though the hour had grown late.
Why are young adult children emancipating so much later than they did in 1970, when the average age of male emancipation (independent living, paying one's own bills) was 21? Why do significant numbers of college professors and even employers complain about parents of young adult students/employees confronting them over, respectively, bad grades and workplace issues? Why have reduced class sizes and increased per-pupil expenditures not resulted in higher academic achievement levels? Why is the mental health of today's kids so poor when compared with that of children in the 1960s and before? Why has school phobia, test ...
It happened a few months back. My father-in-law celebrated, to our great joy, his 88th birthday. There was no pomp or circumstance involved. He abhors that. Because he is among the most beautifully well-mannered people I have ever encountered, he politely took all the calls though he really wished we would just treat it as another day and leave him alone to watch the news channel.
Laughter is the best medicine, the old adage goes.
The annual Effingham County American Cancer Society memorial service will be held Sunday at 2:30 p.m. at the Effingham County Board of Education auditorium, 405 N. Ash St. in Springfield.
Family Promise of Effingham County recently held a ribbon cutting officially dedicating its day center on Laurel Street in Springfield. Joined by Effingham board members, executive director Ashley Moore cut the ribbon as part of the local activities for Family Promise Week.
It happened the other day. It's funny how things so simple can remind us of things so meaningful, of those sweets that are tucked inside our hearts and unknowingly treasured.
Q: My 6-year-old son argues with me about everything I tell him to do. He comes up with reason after reason why he shouldn't have to or can't, why it's unfair, or why, at the least, I should help him. I think he's got some argument disorder. Is there such a thing? In any case, it's beginning to drive me nuts, up a wall, and over the edge. Is there a solution?
It's time once again for me to clarify my position on spanking. I arrived at this reluctant conclusion because twice in the last week, I've been informed that I believe in it, which is not exactly true.