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7 things to do when your husband isn't attracted to you anymore
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And you don't feel beautiful anymore either. - photo by Melinda Fox
Melinda Fox
FamilyShare
Published: Aug 10, 2017, 4:10 PM
While sex and attraction dont mean everything about your relationship, they do set a marriage apart from other relationships. Sexual intimacy is something you only share with your spouse. If that aspect of your relationship is struggling, try these seven things to keep it alive:

1. Go to a singles bar

Get that fire burning again by using the same match that sparked it in the first place. Go to a singles bar and pick each other up. Go on a first date and get to know each other all over again. Sometimes getting back to the basics (and away from daily stresses) can be just the push your relationship needs to rediscover romance.

2. Learn his love languages

Attraction has a lot to do with how we feel the other person feels about us. In other words, maybe he isnt feeling attracted to you because he simply isnt feeling love from you. Oftentimes, this is simply a disconnect between the way we express love and how the other person feels it. By learning your husbands love language, you can know he appreciates a compliment more than a kiss or a gift more than service; You can show him affection in a way that he really feels it.

3. Avoid pornography

While couples report that pornography has positive effects, studies show that porn commonly has a negative impact on sexual expectations. Since pornography is generally an idealized or fantastical version of sex, it can create desires or expectations for intimacy that arent shared by partners. Instead of watching pornography, create an open dialogue about sex between you and your husband where you each talk about what you like and dont like.

4. Do something thrilling

Studies show that doing something novel and exciting boosts attraction. If you feel bored in your relationship, go skydiving, go to a rock concert or rob a bank (wait, do not do that). Just do something that will get your adrenaline pumping. The influx of adrenaline and other hormones will naturally increase your attraction to your spouse.

5. Ask him 36 questions

Scientists set out to understand how intimacy is created and they found it: 36 questions that unlock love. Attraction is made up of so many elements that we sometimes forget how much emotional and mental intimacy play into overall attraction. If you want to reignite your husband's attraction to you, try asking him these questions.

6. Redefine attraction

Sometimes we believe the fallacy that attraction is all about physicality when in reality it is a culmination of elements. We are attracted to confidence, a sense of humor, intellect, etc. Take a step back and evaluate what attraction means to your husband so you can increase the ways you are exuding that attribute.

7. Gaze deeply into his eyes

Some studies find that gazing into someone's eyes for an extended period of time can actually ignite passionate feelings. It's a strangely vulnerable feeling, but if you can last for a few minutes, this practice can have an affect on how much your husband is attracted to you.

8. Have some "me" time

Maybe the issue isn't with the way your husband sees you, but with how you see yourself. Take some time to do whatever it is that makes you feel confident and beautiful. This could be anything from manicures to mountain biking. Whatever it may be, take the time to make yourself believe in your own attractiveness.
Its toxic: New study says blue light from tech devices can speed up blindness
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A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers. - photo by Herb Scribner
Herb Scribner
Deseret News
Published: Aug 13, 2018, 1:39 PM
It turns out checking Twitter or Facebook before bed is bad for your health.

A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers.

That process can lead to age-related macular degeneration, which is a leading cause of blindness in the United States, according to the researchs extract.

Blue light is a common issue for many modern Americans. Blue light is emitted from screens, most notably at night, causing sleep loss, eye strain and a number of other issues.

Dr. Ajith Karunarathne, assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry, said our constant exposure to blue light cant be blocked by the lens or cornea.

"It's no secret that blue light harms our vision by damaging the eye's retina. Our experiments explain how this happens, and we hope this leads to therapies that slow macular degeneration, such as a new kind of eye drop, he said.

Macular degeneration is an incurable eye disease that often affects those in their 50s or 60s. It occurs after the death of photoreceptor cells in the retina. Those cells need retinal to sense light and help signal the brain.

The research team found blue light exposure created poisonous chemical molecules that killed photoreceptor cells

"It's toxic. If you shine blue light on retinal, the retinal kills photoreceptor cells as the signaling molecule on the membrane dissolves," said Kasun Ratnayake, a Ph.D. student researcher working in Karunarathne's cellular photo chemistry group. "Photoreceptor cells do not regenerate in the eye. When they're dead, they're dead for good."

However, the researchers found a molecule called alpha-tocopherol, which comes from Vitamin E, can help prevent cell death, according to Futurism.

The researchers plan to review how light from TVs, cellphones and tablet screens affect the eyes as well.

"If you look at the amount of light coming out of your cellphone, it's not great but it seems tolerable," said Dr. John Payton, visiting assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry. "Some cellphone companies are adding blue-light filters to the screens, and I think that is a good idea."

Indeed, Apple released a Night Shift mode two years ago to help quell blue lights strain on the eyes, according to The Verge. The screen will dim into a warmer, orange light that will cause less stress on the eyes.