Most people we ask this question to say "no" because independence is the perceived goal of everything. We live in a country and a world and a time when independence is revered, sought after, envied and almost worshiped. We are conditioned to want financial independence as well as mental and emotional independence. We see any type of dependence on someone else as a weakness, and we find it easier to say I love you than I need you.

Most people also answer "no" to the question because they think the alternative to independence is codependence which is defined as a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. And who would want that?

But interdependence is not codependence. It is something much different and much more beautiful. It is a mutual dependence that is chosen in love. It is something that is committed to. It makes us more than we otherwise could be.

We live in a world where independence is almost an obsession. Young people today want to avoid being dependent on anyone. They want to keep all their options open and not let anything tie them down.

But independence is overrated. Not needing anyone and always relying solely on yourself can become the ultimate recipe for loneliness.

Interdependence is so much better. It is the conscious choice of commitment, the deliberate decision to intertwine your life with the person you love most. It is the sacrifice of something good for something better.

Interdependence is the choice you make when you opt for the bonds of committed matrimony. There is a security, a joy and a natural peace in interdependence that independence has never known.

As Benjamin Franklin said, A single man is like half a pair of scissors.

Chosen interdependence moves us along the scale from selfishness to selflessness. It releases us from constant worry about ourselves and admits us to the more pleasant land of "worry about others" particularly about the one you love more than yourself.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, See how the masses of men worry themselves into nameless graves, while here and there a great unselfish soul forgets himself into immortality. We think this happens largely through acknowledged and accepted interdependence.

According to the Pew Research Center, most Americans who never have been married say they would like to get married at some point in their lives. We are wired for interdependence. We instinctively want to be with someone, to take care of someone. We are made to love.

Someone who is always seeking his own happiness seldom finds it. But someone who is genuinely trying to make his or her spouse happy usually succeeds.

To summarize the case we are making, we might suggest that there are three Ss" that speak for the superiority of interdependence over independence:

Synergy

When interdependence is chosen and committed to in love, you become more than the sum of your parts. The total of what you can accomplish with your spouse and what you can feel together is much more than twice what either of you could experience alone.

Security

While the natural extension of independence is loneliness and isolation, the reward and result of interdependence is a deep sense of comfort and security. Someone to take care of and someone to take care of you is not an indication of weakness but an enhancer of happiness.

Society

Even though we talk a lot in this country about individual rights and individual freedoms, the basic unit of a strong society and of a strong economy is the household unit the family. Statistics show time and again that married couples with children not only perpetuate the human race but produce more, earn more and contribute more than single individuals living alone.

So revisit the question! Because if you are lucky enough to have someone you love more than yourself, giving up your independence in favor of interdependence will be the best trade you will ever make!