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Why you should go slowly into a new relationship
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Heres a new piece of advice for young couples dont commit a relationship DUI (decision under the influence) and rush into making a long-term decision for your relationship before marriage. - photo by Herb Scribner
Heres a new piece of advice for young couples dont commit a relationship DUI (decision under the influence) and rush into making a long-term decision for your relationship before marriage.

This advice comes from a new video by PREP Media that uses doodle drawings to explain how rushing into cohabitation or other long-term aspects of a relationship, like buying a car or pet together before marriage could destroy your relationship and possibly your potential marriage, especially when you and your partner don't have shared values.

If we slide into a relationship with someone who doesnt have the same values as us that can be trouble, University of Virginia associate professor W. Bradford Wilcox said in a phone interview. People should go slowly into a relationship and be deliberate about them.

Wilcox agreed with the videos point that couples shouldnt lock into leases, loans or liabilities before they marry since it may impair their ability to end a relationship that isnt working.

Whether its a common pet or a common couch or a common condo, it prohibits your ability to be sober and decisive about breaking off a relationship that you realize may not be the right thing for you and your partner at that time, Wilcox said.

Wilcox said couples should wait until after marriage to make other long-term commitments with their partner.

After youve gotten marriage, its good to co-mingle your assets. Its good to establish a joint-checking account, its good to have a pet together, its good to have a home together," Wilcox said. "In the wake of a marriage, shared assets are a great thing. But prior to a marriage, they can damage a relationship.

The video has been used at conferences, in school classrooms and with small group meetings to teach people about the negatives of moving in together before marriage. Wilcox said his students at the University of Virginia were moved by the video, and that real-world couples who are contemplating making long-term decisions, like cohabitating, can learn a lot from watching it, especially during this day and age.

The video comes at a time when American couples are cohabitating more than ever. Lois Collins of the Deseret News reported earlier this year that cohabitating has nearly doubled in the last 25 years. In fact, two out of every three couples have cohabitated before marriage at some point in their lives, Collins reported.

"We thought maybe the number had plateaued," Wendy D. Manning, co-director of the National Center for Family and Marriage, told Collins, "but it continues to rise. Now about two-thirds have ever cohabited. That's really striking."

Young couples who cohabitate are especially vulnerable to divorce, according to research from the Council on Contemporary Families, which I wrote about in January. The research said that couples younger than 23 years old, who sometimes rush into cohabitation, often cant handle the responsibility of living together and being fully independent.

Experts told The Christian Science Monitor that todays society can be more complicated, which requires more emotional and intellectual intelligence to make things work. Couples who have already had real-world experience will have better success living together, which is why its important to wait until after marriage, The Christian Science Monitor reported.

Part of it is maturity, Arielle Kuperburg, professor at the University of North Carolina Greensboro, told the Christian Science Monitor. Part of it is picking the right partner, part of it is that youre really not set up in the world yet.

CORRECTION: This article previously indicated that Kuperburg's research said cohabitation before marriage is indicative of divorce. The research actually shows that living together before marriage does not cause divorce in and of itself, but rather getting married or moving in together too young is a factor.
Its toxic: New study says blue light from tech devices can speed up blindness
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A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers. - photo by Herb Scribner
It turns out checking Twitter or Facebook before bed is bad for your health.

A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers.

That process can lead to age-related macular degeneration, which is a leading cause of blindness in the United States, according to the researchs extract.

Blue light is a common issue for many modern Americans. Blue light is emitted from screens, most notably at night, causing sleep loss, eye strain and a number of other issues.

Dr. Ajith Karunarathne, assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry, said our constant exposure to blue light cant be blocked by the lens or cornea.

"It's no secret that blue light harms our vision by damaging the eye's retina. Our experiments explain how this happens, and we hope this leads to therapies that slow macular degeneration, such as a new kind of eye drop, he said.

Macular degeneration is an incurable eye disease that often affects those in their 50s or 60s. It occurs after the death of photoreceptor cells in the retina. Those cells need retinal to sense light and help signal the brain.

The research team found blue light exposure created poisonous chemical molecules that killed photoreceptor cells

"It's toxic. If you shine blue light on retinal, the retinal kills photoreceptor cells as the signaling molecule on the membrane dissolves," said Kasun Ratnayake, a Ph.D. student researcher working in Karunarathne's cellular photo chemistry group. "Photoreceptor cells do not regenerate in the eye. When they're dead, they're dead for good."

However, the researchers found a molecule called alpha-tocopherol, which comes from Vitamin E, can help prevent cell death, according to Futurism.

The researchers plan to review how light from TVs, cellphones and tablet screens affect the eyes as well.

"If you look at the amount of light coming out of your cellphone, it's not great but it seems tolerable," said Dr. John Payton, visiting assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry. "Some cellphone companies are adding blue-light filters to the screens, and I think that is a good idea."

Indeed, Apple released a Night Shift mode two years ago to help quell blue lights strain on the eyes, according to The Verge. The screen will dim into a warmer, orange light that will cause less stress on the eyes.