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5 things your husband is deathly afraid to tell you
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Your knight in shining armor may not be as fearless as you think. Here are 5 things your hubby may be deathly afraid of telling you. - photo by Georgia Lee
He may be your knight in shining armor but that doesnt mean hes completely fearless. No matter how brave and amazing your man is there are still some things he is deathly afraid to tell you.

Here are 5 you may find surprising:

1. I lost my job.

If your husband is the sole provider for the household, losing a lucrative job could spell disaster for your family. Even if his income is moderate or you also provide financially for the family, when a man gets canned things can go wrong in the relationship very quickly. He may hide his unemployment from you by pretending to go to work when he is really out looking for another job. He may also take it as a mini vacation and enjoy his newfound freedom by indulging in leisure and recreational activities. All in all, it takes a brave man to admit right away hes out of work. Take it as a blessing if he does. Your guy is more honest than many.

2. I have a problem.

Vulnerability can be difficult for a man who is used to being the rock for his partner. It can be uncomfortable to ask for support when he has always been the supporter. Whether his problem is emotional, health related, or even a budding addiction, your husband may not be brave enough to outright ask for help.

3. Im hurting.

Likewise, when his affliction has evolved into serious turmoil your guy is a bit more likely to show distress. But not in the ways you would think. Men are more likely to become aggressive, argumentative or withdrawn when they are hurting.

They may say, Why are you always bothering me?, This is your fault, or Leave me alone, when what they really mean is, Im in pain and I need help. If you can become good at interpreting these signs of distress you can head off an explosive or implosive episode before it damages your marriage.

4. Im attracted to someone else.

Notwithstanding any real intention to leave, your guy will almost never tell you when hes seriously attracted to another woman. And this is very dangerous for both of you. The best marriages need honest and open communication. So much so that it can survive the potentially embarrassing admission that your man has the hots for another woman.

It may not make sense on the surface, but if your guy can come to you with his feelings that means he trusts you enough to help him through his confusion. If hes hiding it the secrecy may grow into an affair, because he feels like he can share who he is and everything he thinks and feels with this other woman, but not you. Only you can help him refocus on his marriage and assist in his abstinence from temptation. Dont push him or his feelings away. And dont invite shame or guilt into the admission. Make sure he knows youre there and support him and you can work together to move past it.

5. Im bored.

By the same token, a man who is bored in his marriage can feel a great sense of pressure not to come forward with his feelings. This will almost inevitably push him further away from his marriage. If he is allowed to feel bored, allowed to process his feelings openly, and allowed to come up with ways to get that spark back, you will both be all the better for it.

A man who loves you can have a hard time communicating his deepest feelings and insecurities. Failure in any aspect of the marriage can leave him feeling depressed but unable to share his vulnerability with you. Pain may come out as anger, secrecy, mistrust, accusation or isolation. So make sure you are doing what you can to create a safe environment for him to be soft and supported while hes going through something.
Its toxic: New study says blue light from tech devices can speed up blindness
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A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers. - photo by Herb Scribner
It turns out checking Twitter or Facebook before bed is bad for your health.

A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers.

That process can lead to age-related macular degeneration, which is a leading cause of blindness in the United States, according to the researchs extract.

Blue light is a common issue for many modern Americans. Blue light is emitted from screens, most notably at night, causing sleep loss, eye strain and a number of other issues.

Dr. Ajith Karunarathne, assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry, said our constant exposure to blue light cant be blocked by the lens or cornea.

"It's no secret that blue light harms our vision by damaging the eye's retina. Our experiments explain how this happens, and we hope this leads to therapies that slow macular degeneration, such as a new kind of eye drop, he said.

Macular degeneration is an incurable eye disease that often affects those in their 50s or 60s. It occurs after the death of photoreceptor cells in the retina. Those cells need retinal to sense light and help signal the brain.

The research team found blue light exposure created poisonous chemical molecules that killed photoreceptor cells

"It's toxic. If you shine blue light on retinal, the retinal kills photoreceptor cells as the signaling molecule on the membrane dissolves," said Kasun Ratnayake, a Ph.D. student researcher working in Karunarathne's cellular photo chemistry group. "Photoreceptor cells do not regenerate in the eye. When they're dead, they're dead for good."

However, the researchers found a molecule called alpha-tocopherol, which comes from Vitamin E, can help prevent cell death, according to Futurism.

The researchers plan to review how light from TVs, cellphones and tablet screens affect the eyes as well.

"If you look at the amount of light coming out of your cellphone, it's not great but it seems tolerable," said Dr. John Payton, visiting assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry. "Some cellphone companies are adding blue-light filters to the screens, and I think that is a good idea."

Indeed, Apple released a Night Shift mode two years ago to help quell blue lights strain on the eyes, according to The Verge. The screen will dim into a warmer, orange light that will cause less stress on the eyes.