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8 ways to make your marriage affair-proof
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1 in 5 Americans have cheated on their spouse. Here's what you need to do to avoid infidelity in your marriage. - photo by Melinda Fox
Melinda Fox
FamilyShare
Published: Apr 7, 2016, 4:09 AM
At least 20 percent of Americans have cheated on their spouse -- that's a whopping one out of every five people. The crazy thing is that people don't enter a marriage expecting to be unfaithful, so once it happens, most people are shocked that it did.

Infidelity can creep up on you, but these eight things will help guard your marriage from it.

1. Realize you're not immune

The first thing you need to do when trying to affair-proof your marriage is realize that it can happen to anyone, including you. Being aware of this possibility allows you to safeguard against infidelity.

2. Avoid exes

What can start out as some innocent texting can escalate to a rekindled flame in no time. If you choose to continue a relationship with someone you dated, make sure you include your spouse. Meet as a group and never discuss something personal with your ex when your spouse isn't there.

3. Don't talk negatively about your spouse

Venting about everything your spouse does just creates feelings of resentment in your relationship, which will affect how each of you feel about each other. Instead, speak directly (but kindly) to your spouse about these issues. Open communication will help you resolve your problems, and strengthens your commitment to each other.

4. Don't withhold sex

Make sure that you and your spouse are having sex regularly. There may be times when you don't feel like getting intimate for a variety of reasons, but don't let this happen regularly. Let sex be something that you look forward to sharing with your spouse.

5. Don't put anyone before your spouse (including your kids)

Your spouse should be your top priority. Allowing other people to knock your spouse out of the No. 1 spot is not healthy for your relationship. Make sure he or she knows that they are the most important person in your life.

6. Don't watch porn

Aside from the fact that many people define porn as a form of cheating, studies actually show that people who watch sexually explicit material are more likely to cheat. Pornography makes people feel like they have more options outside the relationship and alights your reproductive instinct, making you more likely to cheat on your partner than people who don't watch pornography.

7. Fulfill each other's needs

You both have individual needs. Make sure you understand what your partner needs and do everything you can to make sure those needs are fulfilled.

8. Keep dating

You're growing as a person, and that person isn't going to want the same relationship she had 10 years ago. Make sure your relationship keeps growing as well. Keep thinking of new ways to romance each other and spend time together talking and building your relationship.
Its toxic: New study says blue light from tech devices can speed up blindness
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A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers. - photo by Herb Scribner
Herb Scribner
Deseret News
Published: Aug 13, 2018, 1:39 PM
It turns out checking Twitter or Facebook before bed is bad for your health.

A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers.

That process can lead to age-related macular degeneration, which is a leading cause of blindness in the United States, according to the researchs extract.

Blue light is a common issue for many modern Americans. Blue light is emitted from screens, most notably at night, causing sleep loss, eye strain and a number of other issues.

Dr. Ajith Karunarathne, assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry, said our constant exposure to blue light cant be blocked by the lens or cornea.

"It's no secret that blue light harms our vision by damaging the eye's retina. Our experiments explain how this happens, and we hope this leads to therapies that slow macular degeneration, such as a new kind of eye drop, he said.

Macular degeneration is an incurable eye disease that often affects those in their 50s or 60s. It occurs after the death of photoreceptor cells in the retina. Those cells need retinal to sense light and help signal the brain.

The research team found blue light exposure created poisonous chemical molecules that killed photoreceptor cells

"It's toxic. If you shine blue light on retinal, the retinal kills photoreceptor cells as the signaling molecule on the membrane dissolves," said Kasun Ratnayake, a Ph.D. student researcher working in Karunarathne's cellular photo chemistry group. "Photoreceptor cells do not regenerate in the eye. When they're dead, they're dead for good."

However, the researchers found a molecule called alpha-tocopherol, which comes from Vitamin E, can help prevent cell death, according to Futurism.

The researchers plan to review how light from TVs, cellphones and tablet screens affect the eyes as well.

"If you look at the amount of light coming out of your cellphone, it's not great but it seems tolerable," said Dr. John Payton, visiting assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry. "Some cellphone companies are adding blue-light filters to the screens, and I think that is a good idea."

Indeed, Apple released a Night Shift mode two years ago to help quell blue lights strain on the eyes, according to The Verge. The screen will dim into a warmer, orange light that will cause less stress on the eyes.