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7 steps to go back to the woman that your husband fell in love with
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Have you changed since you said "I do?" Here's how to go back to who you were without losing who you've come to be. - photo by Megan Shauri
Megan Shauri
FamilyShare
Published: Nov 1, 2016, 1:00 PM
Relationships are great. When you have someone you can share your deepest desires with, a best friend to spend curled up watching a movie with and someone to hold your hand when youre scared, it is the best feeling in the world. But sometimes we take those relationships for granted. We get too comfortable. We forget that at one time we treated them with the most respect of anybody. Sometimes we need to remember to be the woman your husband fell in love with. Heres how we can do that:

1. Put in the same effort

When you were single and on the hunt, how much time and effort did you put into your appearance? You probably never left the house without make-up on or while wearing anything resembling yoga pants. Think about how much effort you put into yourself now. You are most likely the last one on your list of people to focus on. While life has changed for you, and its not the end of the world if you go weeks without straightening your hair, it can definitely kill some of the romance in your marriage.

Take time for yourself. Get pampered once in a while. Put effort into your appearance. Not only will it remind your husband of the beautiful woman he fell in love with, but it will show him how much more beautiful you are now. It will also make you feel better about yourself. Looks arent everything, but when youre put together it can boost your confidence.

2. Talk to him

When youre dating it seems all you do is talk to each other. You tell stories about your past, talk about your goals and dreams, and get to know each other. After years of marriage you may feel youve already heard all the stories and know everything there is to know. Sometimes you are so busy all you have time for is a quick update about the kids, work, and what needs to get done. If this is you, make sure you make time to have a real conversation. Talk. Share. These moments are what unite you. They are what remind you of what you love about your spouse. Your real feelings, your dreams that others may laugh at and your quirks that only they understand are what drew you to each other in the first place.

3. Go on dates

Between life, kids and work, going on a date with your spouse may be a thing of the past. It may seem ridiculous to try and squeeze a date between all you have going on in your life, but if you really want to be the person your husband fell in love with, this is vital. Spending time just the two of you strengthens your relationship. Dating reminds you of the reasons you fell in love with each other. It proves you still have things in common. It confirms that even after the kids leave the house and you both retire, you still will get along.

4. Spend time on your husband

New relationships have a certain excitement about them. It is fun discovering things about the other person. You used to really focus on your partner; who they are, what they like and what they want in a future spouse. When we were dating, we wanted to be the person they deserved to be with. We were on our best behavior, did things they liked to do, and found ways to make them happy. After weve been married a few years, things may get a little too comfortable. We may forget our manners and not be so concerned with what makes him happy. Fix this. Spend some time on him. Not because you have to, but because you want to. Remember how happy it made you to make them happy. Dont forget that.

5. Dont forget about you

Who you were then was obviously attractive to your husband. What you did with your free time, your hobbies, how you looked, how you acted these were things that got your mans attention. Sometimes it is easy to get lost. We can give ourselves over to our family, job = and other distractions. Dont lose who you are. If you gave up cycling because you didnt have the time, make time. If you stopped volunteering at the humane society because you moved away, find a new one to go to. Dont lose what youre passionate about. That is still something your husband will find attractive.

6. Step back in time

If you really want to return to those days when you were dating, do it. Look at pictures and videos, talk about what you used to do and remember. Take a look at how far youve come together and all that youve accomplished as a couple. It is good to reminisce, but also to note that change is good. We cant all stay the same forever, but if we change and grow together, it can make for a very beautiful relationship.

Sometimes we just need a reminder that we are in a relationship. Relationships are hard and take constant work. By taking a look at your past and remembering how you were when you were first dating, it helps to remind you of this. It reminds you of who you were when your husband fell in love with you and will help rekindle the flame.
Its toxic: New study says blue light from tech devices can speed up blindness
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A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers. - photo by Herb Scribner
Herb Scribner
Deseret News
Published: Aug 13, 2018, 1:39 PM
It turns out checking Twitter or Facebook before bed is bad for your health.

A new study from the University of Toledo found that blue light from digital devices can transform molecules in your eyes retina into cell killers.

That process can lead to age-related macular degeneration, which is a leading cause of blindness in the United States, according to the researchs extract.

Blue light is a common issue for many modern Americans. Blue light is emitted from screens, most notably at night, causing sleep loss, eye strain and a number of other issues.

Dr. Ajith Karunarathne, assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry, said our constant exposure to blue light cant be blocked by the lens or cornea.

"It's no secret that blue light harms our vision by damaging the eye's retina. Our experiments explain how this happens, and we hope this leads to therapies that slow macular degeneration, such as a new kind of eye drop, he said.

Macular degeneration is an incurable eye disease that often affects those in their 50s or 60s. It occurs after the death of photoreceptor cells in the retina. Those cells need retinal to sense light and help signal the brain.

The research team found blue light exposure created poisonous chemical molecules that killed photoreceptor cells

"It's toxic. If you shine blue light on retinal, the retinal kills photoreceptor cells as the signaling molecule on the membrane dissolves," said Kasun Ratnayake, a Ph.D. student researcher working in Karunarathne's cellular photo chemistry group. "Photoreceptor cells do not regenerate in the eye. When they're dead, they're dead for good."

However, the researchers found a molecule called alpha-tocopherol, which comes from Vitamin E, can help prevent cell death, according to Futurism.

The researchers plan to review how light from TVs, cellphones and tablet screens affect the eyes as well.

"If you look at the amount of light coming out of your cellphone, it's not great but it seems tolerable," said Dr. John Payton, visiting assistant professor in the UT Department of Chemistry and Biochemistry. "Some cellphone companies are adding blue-light filters to the screens, and I think that is a good idea."

Indeed, Apple released a Night Shift mode two years ago to help quell blue lights strain on the eyes, according to The Verge. The screen will dim into a warmer, orange light that will cause less stress on the eyes.