“How was your day today?”
“Anything new or interesting happen?”
Does this dialogue sound familiar to you?
Getting your spouse to open up about how his or her day at work went can feel like an all too familiar conversation as you engage in the same almost scripted dialogue every evening after work.
In a 2011 Huffington Post article, psychologist and author Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson explained that the most frequent reason behind miscommunication in a relationship is the simple fact that people don’t realize how little they are actually communicating.
“The vast majority of us tend to believe that our behavior is much more expressive than it actually is, and this occurs across a wide variety of situations,” says Dr. Halvorson.
Furthermore, she explains that when we expect and assume that someone knows what we’re thinking about and feeling, it can be detrimental to the relationship.
“Assuming that we’ve been clear about what we wanted, we blame them when things don’t go the way we expected, or when we feel our needs are going unmet.”
Additionally, a 2013 survey conducted by yourtango.com found that miscommunication problems were the leading factor in divorces in 2013. Not surprisingly, the best way to “divorce-proof” your marriage may be to work on improving the communication.
With that in mind, here are some simple yet thoughtful questions you can ask your spouse to find out how his or her day really went.
1. What was your favorite part of your day?
2. What made you laugh the most today?
3. What was the worst thing about your day?
4. If your day had a theme song, what would it be?
5. Who is your favorite co-worker?
6. Where do you see yourself in this job five years from now?
7. How are some of your clients or customers doing?
8. What inspired you the most today?
9. Where did you go for lunch today?
10. What did you really feel like doing today besides working?
11. Did you see anything funny or interesting on Twitter or Facebook today?
12. What annoyed you the most today?
13. What was the most interesting article you read today?
14. What do you like the most about your boss or manager?
15. Did you face any problems today at work?
16. Who is the funniest person in the office?
17. What is your favorite thing about your company?
18. Is there anything you want to do together after work this week?
19. What are some things you would change about the way your work runs?
20. Is there a new field of interest at your work that you want to explore?
21. What was the most interesting thing that happened today?
22. What’s your least favorite part about your job?
23. If you could have any job in the company, what would it be?
24. What is something you wish you could have changed about today?
25. Did you learn anything new today?
26. What thought got you through your work day?
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